The bond of fatherhood
WOMEN AND THEIR BRA SIZES! Help?
I am so frustrated. My "baby mama" (We live together but she won't give me the title of a boy friend until I prove myself to her) cares so much about her looks! It drives me crazy. I tell her she looks beautiful but what I think does not matter to her at all. She only cares what others think of her. She used to be a full Double D bra and after having a child they are not as full as they used to be. I tell her that it does not matter to me what they look like. She has been wearing a double D "Padded" bra to make up for what she thinks is "lacking." Today she went out and bought a non-padded bra to her actual boob size and it looks really good on her because her bra actually fits! Her old padded bra actually looks waaaayyyyy to big on her and very puffy and it is obvious that she is not wearing the correct bra size. After 6 hours of wearing her right size new bra, she says she wants to go back to her old padded bras. This just kills me because it is like she is trying to impress everyone else. It is like she is trying to impress other guys or something. I wish she just cared what I thought instead of trying to impress everyone else. No matter how many times I tell her she looks amazing, it doesn't seem to matter to her.
Is this something to get upset about? I asked her why she cares what everyone else thinks of her and she just tells me to stop talking about it and does not give me an answer at all.
Is this something to get upset about? I asked her why she cares what everyone else thinks of her and she just tells me to stop talking about it and does not give me an answer at all.
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Permalink Reply by Ethan Bauley on -
For fashion stuff, sometimes you need to get someone else besides yourself to weigh in on your side of the debate ;-)
Also...I saw your profile. I am a drummer, too...you can check out [one of] my bands here: myspace.com/alexsammusic
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Permalink Reply by Matt on -
Hey I just checked out your myspace. I really like the music a lot. It is a very unique sound. I miss being in a band. It is just hard right now to find the time.
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Permalink Reply by Ethan Bauley on
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Oh yeah, you can also go to Nordstrom's lingerie department...the saleswomen will measure her there and tell her what the right size is, etc.
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Permalink Reply by Rob on -
If you really want to stop this you need to attack this with allies. You need to get her friends on your side to tell her that it is unnecessary and almost insulting that she doesn't think your word that she is beautiful is good enough. That and have her get measured somewhere, that will also help her see that she should wear the correct size. Who knows, I know my wife would kill to be in something smaller than a double d.
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Permalink Reply by cesar on -
hey man i feel you! my girl its the same no matter what you said you wrong, I just dont say anything anymore , now she realize that im not attacking her im here to help her look good , i go and buy new bra's some sexy ones the way she feel good about her.
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Permalink Reply by Brandon on -
I have a similar problem. My wife always thinks she looks bad, but she hardly ever does. She doesn't buy the wrong size or anything, she's just ALWAYS self-conscious about her looks. I've settled on telling her she looks great and letting her try to be comfortable with herself.
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Permalink Reply by Charles Ward on -
Don't take it the wrong way. Many woman think that they don't look good. What you need to do is keep up what you are doing about telling her how good she looks. It may not seem like she believes you but it does help. There also may be some underlying issues as well. But you should keep it up. Your opinion does matter to her, she may need some outside opinions too. But just dont give up and keep telling her what you think. If you stop, it may make matters worse.
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Permalink Reply by Dragon Daddy on -
I was just browsing this thread and my wife looked over my shoulder to read your response. Her thought, "solid advice, good job, dude."
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