The bond of fatherhood
I am 47 Independent Never Wanted Kids And Now Look Shes Pregnant
Been married a few times have had a ton of fun and 16 months ago met my soulmate and been on a ride ever since.
We are getting married this year and everything was perfect!
I was just starting to process the idea of a kid she wants one i could have lived my whole life without it and i was going to take this whole year to mentally prepare for this.
Anyway New Years night period a day late had a feeling and of course the piss on the stick was positive.
Now i am a complete mess.
I am mired in negativity.
There goes my hot sexy wife to be her amazing body ruined forever by a kid.
The sex down the train when the hormone monster appears during the next 9 months and becoming the ignored man when the kid is around.
She swears nothing will change and she is very into her looks and taking care of herself and she could never live with being fat but i have no trust or faith.
Yes i know superficial things buy i am in as good as shape as i was in my 20s and to be honest dont get turned on by mush.
Not only that lets get deeper.
I feel that my freedom and my life is going to be a ball of stress.
Crying baby everything about the kid and my life as an independent adult over.
I am very successful and have the freedom to travel the world and have so I can afford help but I have so much negativity around this.
Abortion is not an option shes 34 and wants to keep it.
In a very dark place and I am one of the most positive oportunistic people i know.
Therapy??
And please share with me every thought.
I have friends who have kids and so many of them went through hell....cant see the positive at all.
We are getting married this year and everything was perfect!
I was just starting to process the idea of a kid she wants one i could have lived my whole life without it and i was going to take this whole year to mentally prepare for this.
Anyway New Years night period a day late had a feeling and of course the piss on the stick was positive.
Now i am a complete mess.
I am mired in negativity.
There goes my hot sexy wife to be her amazing body ruined forever by a kid.
The sex down the train when the hormone monster appears during the next 9 months and becoming the ignored man when the kid is around.
She swears nothing will change and she is very into her looks and taking care of herself and she could never live with being fat but i have no trust or faith.
Yes i know superficial things buy i am in as good as shape as i was in my 20s and to be honest dont get turned on by mush.
Not only that lets get deeper.
I feel that my freedom and my life is going to be a ball of stress.
Crying baby everything about the kid and my life as an independent adult over.
I am very successful and have the freedom to travel the world and have so I can afford help but I have so much negativity around this.
Abortion is not an option shes 34 and wants to keep it.
In a very dark place and I am one of the most positive oportunistic people i know.
Therapy??
And please share with me every thought.
I have friends who have kids and so many of them went through hell....cant see the positive at all.
Tags: fat, getting, hormones, is, lack, my, of, pregnant, sex, wife
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Permalink Reply by Ed on -
So leave
Or not, I found that while life changed dramatically, it was not better or worse, just different. We do tend to discuss what kind of television we want longer than the discussion to have kids. Oh well, this experience is priceless and this women is giving you a gift that you can never repay. Soak up every second crying and all, I don't care how good you look or what kind of shape your in, If you lucky you might have 35 good years left.....then your out. If I had to guess, it will be at about the first Kindergarten concert when you realize how empty your life was without the kid.
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Permalink Reply by Lovin Life on
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You're a total fucking skeeze ball douche bag. I hope she leaves you and sues you for maximum child support. Go log into your adult friend finder account and beat off!
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Permalink Reply by David W on
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Fuck you!! You are a piece of shit low life non evolved judgementel person. Another asshole who hides behind the internet and judges
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Permalink Reply by William thomas wenger on
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First i got to say is at her age you gotta look at the bigger picture here hell yous 47 your aparently independant you should know how it works so if your goin to stick with it just think about this her age raises the chances for the baby have a disability and a complicated pregnancy
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Permalink Reply by Elijah Gramm Presley on
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Stop being selfish, Im 17 years old and have stepped up to the plate. I'm scared shitless just like you probably are...you did it to yourself just like I did. I have no clue whats about to happen to my life but my world will revolve around my little girl. You think i was thrilled about the idea of raising a kid and trying to finish highschool, college and sports. If you truly loved her you wouldn't be worried about what this baby is going to do to her body.
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Permalink Reply by George Harrison on
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Good for you, Elijah! I can't believe this cum dribble, who acts like that?
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Permalink Reply by J. P. M. on
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Alright, as requested, here is every thought. I think that what you are going through is less about having a child and more about facing the fact that you are getting old. It doesn't matter that you are in as good of shape as you were when you were 20, the simple fact of the matter is that it takes more effort to maintain that level of fitness, and you are rapidly approaching an age where it will no longer be possible. Now it's time to start looking beneath the surface - and it sounds like that's not one of your strong points.
A child is a challenge. You DO go through hell - sometimes daily. But it's only when you challenge yourself that you realize what you are capable of. Right now "success" to you means that you mean a little bit to a lot of people, but when you have a child you mean everything to one of the most important people in the world.
As a pragmatic note - my wife has a fantastic body after two kids. She won't when she's 75, but that's 45 years away and I'll love her then too. And as far as traveling goes - my child has been to 10 different countries, lived in 4 and speaks 4 languages (although I'm pretty sure she's forgotten one almost completely). The plane ride sucks balls now - but traveling is just as easy as it's always been. You make your own way.
So quit talking like a douche - and congratulations to you and your soulmate.
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